A lot of us are risk averse, some more than others. Most logical people would weigh up the costs and benefits before doing something and some people are just indecisive. But how do we compare that to miracles and going after what we want? It is commonly known that there are more people who regret not doing things rather than doing things. What stops us from taking the plunge with any life decision?
I have read many motivational quotes and stories on how someone managed to achieve what they wanted. But even after all that, I still find myself questioning ‘but what if this happens’ etc. I find that this stops me from doing a lot of things. The fear of the unknown and the fear of failure. I read somewhere that now the fear of failure ranks higher than fear of dying. After all it is a fight against ourselves. No matter what people advise us or tell us, it doesn’t have a full resonating effect until we realise it ourselves. For example when we’re young, we’re always told to cherish our school years, as they are the easiest years we’ll have. But as children we just brush it off until they’re gone. When we learn lessons ourselves, we feel empowered and more confident. I wish that I could say that this feeling lasts a long time but as we all know, there are ups and downs and soon we will face another difficult battle.
Something that has helped me, is thinking in the extreme. I think to myself at 80 years old, at the brink of death and whether or not I’d regret not doing this. I think something to remember when we’re at crossroads, is to adopt the philosophy of no regrets. When you make a decision, commit to it and give it your all. If you fail, you will have still gained something, whether that may be thicker skin or a lesson learnt. There are no true failures, there is always something to be learnt and at the least you can take comfort in the fact that you stood back up. Even when you think back in life, to that time you made a decision, there should be no regrets because you at that time believed that it was the right choice, there was no wrong choice, no right ‘path’ and you made it with confidence.
These are the few things that has helped me gain confidence and make decisions. Whilst I write this, I am also reminding myself to do the same. I know that a lot of times, you become comfortable with where you are and what you have now but what if there was something better out there? We need this hope to continue to grow and challenge ourselves. I hope that it is of some use to you.
Till our next meeting,