With the New Year approaching, we are beginning to create our new year’s resolutions and promises to ourselves… Or are we? The New Year marks a time where you can ‘start over’, where everything stays the same but the only ‘restart’ that can happen is within us. It has become so widely accepted that any new year’s resolutions made will be abandoned by February, at best. Nowadays we create these resolutions with the aims of abandoning them shortly after, some don’t even bother now. It has become a sort of running New Year’s joke, reduced to memes on social media.
The phrase new year, new me is aimed at the fact that you are going to make a change. Of course you don’t magically change as soon as the clock strikes 12. You feel no different; it has to be a work in progress…that lasts the rest of your life. It would be better to have only one resolution that you would stick to and add more as the years progress. I don’t know where this notion of writing a list of resolution comes from.. it makes it almost impossible to keep them all, but maybe that’s why, so in the end we have to keep at least one to make ourselves feel better.
Are we setting ourselves up for failure? Are we doing this to give ourselves a temporary, fake feeling of taking action, of being better? At this rate it’s probably more effective to create resolutions in the middle of the year. By doing this, you can’t use all the parties between Christmas and New Year’s as an excuse. Either way if you’re not committed and determined, anything can be used as an excuse, or if you’ve really hit a low point, there won’t even be an excuse. We tend to abandon our resolutions because of the effort involved. For example if you wanted to go to the gym daily, that act of getting ready and going to the gym itself is a feat in itself. We then start to make excuses and say to ourselves ‘I’ll do it tomorrow, I’ll take today off as a treat for going 2 straight days in a row’. It seems to be embedded in us to not exert the effort even if we see the benefits. Apparently the temptation to slack off is too strong.
As always not everybody is like that. For those who have managed to keep their resolutions, I tip my hat off to you. It’s pretty incredible, the action of mind over body because after all that’s what it is. I will be the first to admit that I never keep my resolutions either, but then again I’ve only made a list once or twice. I gave up, knowing that I wouldn’t even attempt to start. Maybe this year there should be a change? I don’t know, it’s just so much easier not to do anything. Anyway, here are a few tips to keeping your resolutions:
- Be prepared – A big part of this is keeping your motivation up. You can buy the materials you need (if it’s the gym – workout clothes). You can post motivational quotes around your house. Find something that will inspire you throughout the process so you can look back at it when you feel like slacking off.
- Get help – Tell people your resolutions. This makes you have some sort of accountability. These people can also help you out.. or set you up to fail depends on who you surround yourself with!
- Set a finish time, a goal – By having a finishing date or a goal, there is something to aim for. You can then pace yourself and make a plan. It will also seem less of a daunting task.
- Have something realistic – This will also help with your motivation. You can increase you goal year on year or even month on month.
- Make one of your resolutions to keep your resolutions 😉
These are just a few random ideas off the top of my head, as I’ve said I not particularly experienced in this department. Hopefully they are of some use to you. Let me know how it goes!
Have a Happy New Year!
Till our next meeting,